问题描述：
如何把孩子培养成普通人?
问题解答：
我来补答
How to cultivate the children into ordinary.
With the development of business,the pressures from the market are becoming higher and higher and this causes EQ,rather than IQ,to be the key to business success.In this case,individuals are very likely to want to know how to develop and improve EQ.
Don鈥檛 Let Your Child Lose At the Starting Line
Life is like a 50-metre dash race in which every moment is precious in order to win at last.I tend to think winning the race of life means self-accomplishment.In the face of the fierce competition nowadays,every second seems to need to be cherished for fear that one would lose the game once and for all merely because of a subliminal neglect.No wonder there鈥檚 an acknowledged slogan held sway over the parents especially the parents in Shanghai as far as I know,鈥渄on鈥檛 let your child lose at the starting line鈥?
Children used to spend all the childhood in playing as I did.But the young parents,specifically the parents since 1990鈥檚,think their child couldn鈥檛 squander their invaluable time and thus prepare insufficiently for the future career.As the Policy (the reform and opening up policy) has further aimed at the whole world,how could the local ordinary people under the traditional education system compete with the elites from other places,even some hybrids and ABC (American born Chinese)?Those people take the advantage of language,rich experience and multi-cultural background.As a result,they overshadowed the local people in many aspects.Hybrids could be a perfect paradigm to show the advantages.
Except the hybrids born in such places as Angeles in the unusual circumstances,well-educated hybrids certainly take more priority in their lives.Their parents tie the knot from different nationalities,in turn,the hybrids with no doubt could receive at least two distinctive cultures which underlie the success of their careers.Just like a skeleton key fits all the locks.From the very young age,the hybrids are under typical influences of more than two cultures,which are bound to lead them to be more international in this global village.A pure American may have difficulty in getting accustomed to the Chinese practice or the way of communication at the arrival in China while a Chinese-American hybrid would have lesser problem for the diversified culture and education of these two countries has been planted into the mind long before.To this extent,local people may not contend nimbly with them.
Traditionally children in China are nurtured in a similar type according to the unique education system.Children are confronted with the same homework and schedule both in the school and at home,and this mode accompanies them until they step into the concrete jungle.Suppose I go to a flower nursery where all the flowers are of the same colour but one different,surely this special one will catch my attention immediately,so with the job hunting.How to be chosen while being one of the majorities of the same colour?Consciously,parents today are the survivors of this type of education and have been fully seen through this phenomenon.Having considered the future for their children,the parents tend to cultivate the flowers from the buds from many domains so that the flowers may outshine others in the blooming season.A saying rising to the occasion thus strongly encourages the parents to make the decisions and utters their real inside thoughts--- don鈥檛 let your child lose at the starting line.The race is so short that the player would lose the game even if they merely overlook one single second.And if they are lagged behind by themselves at the starting line,they have to struggle more strenuously to catch up,let alone surpass.Compared with the envious convenience of the wealthy people,foreigners,ABCs,and even hybrids,ordinary children have only one access,learning a variety of knowledge and skills diligently,to ensure that they may have a bright future or at least a not bad future.
Although all the parents are out of active consideration and fervent hope,children couldn鈥檛 sophisticatedly apprehend the purpose.There鈥檙e so many distractions interesting and appealing but turn to be the beauty in the mirror which are visible but untouchable.What is available doesn鈥檛 really attract them.They feel learning ceaselessly is their responsibility because their parents exhort that all they are doing and all they are required to do would do them good in the future,and all the words parents have said would prove to be the maxim in the future.They have been deprived of naïve enjoyment of the pure childhood.Probably the actual meaning of the word 鈥渃hildhood鈥 has been deviated in their minds.Looking back after they grow up to be a real adult,little impressive but learning has been sealed in their minds.But perhaps they may understand what their parents meant when they were young.
When they become parents themselves years later,I tend to assume that there will be another slogan sweep the society--- don鈥檛 let your child jump the gun.
With the development of business,the pressures from the market are becoming higher and higher and this causes EQ,rather than IQ,to be the key to business success.In this case,individuals are very likely to want to know how to develop and improve EQ.
Don鈥檛 Let Your Child Lose At the Starting Line
Life is like a 50-metre dash race in which every moment is precious in order to win at last.I tend to think winning the race of life means self-accomplishment.In the face of the fierce competition nowadays,every second seems to need to be cherished for fear that one would lose the game once and for all merely because of a subliminal neglect.No wonder there鈥檚 an acknowledged slogan held sway over the parents especially the parents in Shanghai as far as I know,鈥渄on鈥檛 let your child lose at the starting line鈥?
Children used to spend all the childhood in playing as I did.But the young parents,specifically the parents since 1990鈥檚,think their child couldn鈥檛 squander their invaluable time and thus prepare insufficiently for the future career.As the Policy (the reform and opening up policy) has further aimed at the whole world,how could the local ordinary people under the traditional education system compete with the elites from other places,even some hybrids and ABC (American born Chinese)?Those people take the advantage of language,rich experience and multi-cultural background.As a result,they overshadowed the local people in many aspects.Hybrids could be a perfect paradigm to show the advantages.
Except the hybrids born in such places as Angeles in the unusual circumstances,well-educated hybrids certainly take more priority in their lives.Their parents tie the knot from different nationalities,in turn,the hybrids with no doubt could receive at least two distinctive cultures which underlie the success of their careers.Just like a skeleton key fits all the locks.From the very young age,the hybrids are under typical influences of more than two cultures,which are bound to lead them to be more international in this global village.A pure American may have difficulty in getting accustomed to the Chinese practice or the way of communication at the arrival in China while a Chinese-American hybrid would have lesser problem for the diversified culture and education of these two countries has been planted into the mind long before.To this extent,local people may not contend nimbly with them.
Traditionally children in China are nurtured in a similar type according to the unique education system.Children are confronted with the same homework and schedule both in the school and at home,and this mode accompanies them until they step into the concrete jungle.Suppose I go to a flower nursery where all the flowers are of the same colour but one different,surely this special one will catch my attention immediately,so with the job hunting.How to be chosen while being one of the majorities of the same colour?Consciously,parents today are the survivors of this type of education and have been fully seen through this phenomenon.Having considered the future for their children,the parents tend to cultivate the flowers from the buds from many domains so that the flowers may outshine others in the blooming season.A saying rising to the occasion thus strongly encourages the parents to make the decisions and utters their real inside thoughts--- don鈥檛 let your child lose at the starting line.The race is so short that the player would lose the game even if they merely overlook one single second.And if they are lagged behind by themselves at the starting line,they have to struggle more strenuously to catch up,let alone surpass.Compared with the envious convenience of the wealthy people,foreigners,ABCs,and even hybrids,ordinary children have only one access,learning a variety of knowledge and skills diligently,to ensure that they may have a bright future or at least a not bad future.
Although all the parents are out of active consideration and fervent hope,children couldn鈥檛 sophisticatedly apprehend the purpose.There鈥檙e so many distractions interesting and appealing but turn to be the beauty in the mirror which are visible but untouchable.What is available doesn鈥檛 really attract them.They feel learning ceaselessly is their responsibility because their parents exhort that all they are doing and all they are required to do would do them good in the future,and all the words parents have said would prove to be the maxim in the future.They have been deprived of naïve enjoyment of the pure childhood.Probably the actual meaning of the word 鈥渃hildhood鈥 has been deviated in their minds.Looking back after they grow up to be a real adult,little impressive but learning has been sealed in their minds.But perhaps they may understand what their parents meant when they were young.
When they become parents themselves years later,I tend to assume that there will be another slogan sweep the society--- don鈥檛 let your child jump the gun.
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