what's the difference between"have/has did "&"have/has done"

what's the difference between"have/has did "&"have/has done"
原文是这样的 "your father and i"wrote his mother,"_____(choose) a bride for you.please return home immdiately."
老师说答案是have chose或者are choosing.
以前听说过have/has done,没听说过have/hase did,高手解释下区别和用法.
那可以解释下为什么不能用did么?就好比“我吃了饭”不能说“我吃过了饭”一样.谢谢了;-p