to have been scolded many times和having been scolded mang tim

having been scolded many times可以做句首,说明一种发生过的状态,而to表示的是一种目的,就句意来看应该是having ……做句首.
he had it repaired 是指他让别人修了某物
had repaired 是指他自己修了某物
talk of是指谈到提到的意思
talk about是指谈论什么什么
to这种不定式的结构一般表示一个目的
不知道你这里的settle想表达的是什么意思,如果将settle理解成解决的话,那么
he talked about settling他谈起了关于解决的问题
he talked to settle他谈话是为了解决……
he talked of settling他谈到了解决
he talked about to settle他谈论了……以解决……